Loving Relationships – Communicating Intimacy

Love is the feeling we have for another human being. It involves the desire to have that person as one of our own kinds, to devote our time and attention to them, to have sex with them, and to develop a relationship that will allow us to build a life with them. It involves the commitment to share the special moments of our lives with this other person and to share the special times we have together in the way we like to.

“What is love?” these are questions we often ask ourselves when we fall in love or are having romantic love experiences. But the truth is, it’s not just what you feel, it’s also how you feel. Love encompasses a whole range of positive and negative emotional and psychological states, from the strongest, romantic trait or good luck, to the lowest common daily joy. In fact, love is an expression of the highest level of connection we can have with another person – an expression that allows us to be present with each other in the moment, rather than waiting for the perfect moment.

So how does love mean? Love means experiencing feelings with another person that is mutually rewarding and complementary to your own. True love is not just a feeling; it is an understanding of the other person’s thoughts and desires, their dreams and their goals. If you don’t have an understanding of the other person, their desires and goals, their dreams and their goals, then you don’t have true love. True love is mutual admiration and respect for someone’s different experiences and perspectives.

I found true love when my partner and I made a conscious choice to be present with one another in the moment, without any expectations, desires or goals other than what was of value to each other. I learned that true affection comes from being present with your partner. I found true love when I was able to give affection without any expectations, or plans. When my partner asked me for something, whether it was a back rub or a kiss, I said yes without any anticipation or plan. When my partner went out with his friends, I accompanied him.

When you’re able to experience complete, focused, whole-body affection, you will find yourself ready to express your love in all its forms. True affection is not lust, it’s love. If you’re looking for romance, you will be searching in the wrong places if you continue to struggle with being present with one person, and you’ll only grow frustrated and disappointed when the other person doesn’t seem to reciprocate your feelings. You will experience feelings of longing, of wanting to be together, of wanting to be just like everyone else, but you must move beyond mere desire and confusion to a more mature form of intimacy that allows for both people to experience complete, whole-body feelings of love.

Communication can help you achieve this mature love language. Try expressing your love for your partner by being available with physical touch as often as possible. Physical touch brings out the feelings of attachment in your partner. Make it a priority to be available with your partner whenever he wants to talk. Express your love for your partner verbally when the opportunity presents itself. This is the way love will start to manifest in your relationship.